balance - group and self

The other night I was chatting with a friend of mine who is a wicked sharp intuitive coach type and we were brainstorming ways we could work together. The conversation brought me to a big idea about balance that I had not thought of before. There is balance of an individual and there is balance of a group. I know it’s a really simple idea and might seem very obvious to many, but hear me out on this.

Sometimes an individual is out of balance and they feel tension in all areas of their life – and sometimes an individual might have pretty solid internal balance – but the team they work on, or family they are part of are out of balance – thus creating a different type of tension. And sometimes an individual might not know which area of balance to address only that they have tension in their life.

In one example boundaries need to be set with the self to make choices that line up with internal values – in the other boundaries need to be set with others to support the values of the group. Both examples involve boundary setting – however the way to go about setting the boundaries is different. One is internal reflection about your own needs and the other is external awareness around how your needs intersect with those around you.

Either way internal awareness is needed though sometimes the path is a deeper internal reflection, that is the area my friend is a master at, and other times, once the internal needs are at least bobbing around the surface, the way those needs comingle with others can be addressed, you guessed it the area where my work is focused.

I don’t know what shape our potential partnership might take -I don know that that for a individual to have balance – we both have a role to play.